First Contact is proud to now offer an intensive outpatient program for those suffering from addiction. This class is for those individuals who wish to remain in the community during their treatment. We will meet one day a week (Saturday) with outside class assignments during the week to help with sobriety. We are excited to offer this Christian-based behavioral therapy training.
Are you in recovery from the struggle with addiction? Do you have a family member or friend who has experienced addiction? Do you need a community surrounding you to lift you up and help you through this phase of life? Then you’ve come to the right place! We invite you to join us on Tuesday nights beginning August 23rd at Mud Creek Baptist Church and Thursday nights beginning August 25th at Ebenezer Baptist Church for our fall session of Over-Comers and Family Support Classes.
First Contact Ministries could not survive without the generous support of our donors and event sponsors. Join us each year for our annual fundraising even, the First Contact Addiction Ministries “Chip Away at Addiction” Golf Tournament. The 2022 date for this event is TBD.
A Breeding Ground – Lesson 15 of the Overcome Bible Study for Addiction Recovery
Pride is considered the grandfather of all sin. Pride allows you to adopt the mindset that you are indeed the center of the universe. It is subtle and makes you a poor student. Pride encourages comparison and selfish expressions. If you don’t believe this fact, engage in the following rudimentary experiment: go an entire day without referring to yourself or your achievements… Follow along in this lesson of the Overcome – Bible Study for Addiction Recovery.
There are numerous quotes that address pride. There are also a multitude of verses in scripture that examine pride as well. There is no shortage of literature on this topic, from Nietzsche to Solomon, from Oedipus Rex to Jesus Christ. There is just something repulsive and repugnant about pride in humans, so much so that we hate it in others, yet condone it in ourselves. Which leads me to believe that the sin in me recognizes the sin in you. At this point it is no longer a question of denomination or profession. We all agree, Christ follower or atheist, pride is a quality undesirable in others, yet we tolerate it within ourselves. While the antithesis to pride, humility, is a trait we all wish our fellow man to be endowed with but find difficult to volunteer ourselves to this practice.
As I mentioned in the introduction post of Overcome, it has been quite an undertaking to translate a group meeting into a blog posting. One of the components to the original design of the class was using a celebrity personality who had succumbed to one of the destructive reactions we cover and juxtapose a testimony from an individual who embodied the biblical response. In this translation, I have removed the celebrity references because I did not want to drive a lot of back and forth and risk missing the entire point. With that being said, I will make this one statement; throughout the development of the original class material, it has been harder to find individuals who have recovered from addiction, than those who have passed away either due to or as a result of. Tragically, I believe it is because of the very topic we discuss in this post.
The problem with pride is that the one suffering from this affliction is they are never wrong, which means they will struggle with being humble. They literally believe they are right, deep down in their heart. Now it is easy for me to be on the other side of the keyboard and point my finger at all of the people whom I believe are prideful, especially when they disagree with me. But for some reason, we all fall into the following observation:
While we are violently aware of pride in others, we exhibit blissful ignorance on our behalf for the same affliction.
A Question of Perspective
The word hubris is a fancy word that means excessive pride, self-confidence and arrogance. The bible refers to this as being stiff-necked. So, for the duration of our discussion, hubris, pride and arrogance will be used interchangeably. In the book Mere Christianity, CS Lewis calls pride “the great sin.” Albert Einstein was famously quoted saying, “the only thing more dangerous than ignorance is arrogance.” While God does not have a sliding scale when it comes to sin, we need to be particularly mindful of the dangers and products of pride: anger, bitterness, rejection, burden, exhaustion, disappointment, gossiping and comparing. While this is not an exhaustive list, let’s focus on the last one for a moment, comparing.
When we compare, we look either up the food chain or down the food chain. While looking up the food chain could generate inspiration, it usually results in the reactive emotion envy. However, looking down the food chain could generate compassion, it usually results in pride. When we start this comparison, we suddenly become aware of the shortcomings of others and foster the deadly feeling of self-importance. When we engage in this activity, we become dismissive of others and talk down to them in posturing manners. Many things can breed arrogance; house, money, car, job, spouse, looks, talents, even knowledge. Regardless, the things that we feel most prideful about are the areas we feel the most superior and powerful in.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.
Proverbs 11:2
Notice the wording of this verse, he says when pride comes, not if. I believe, because Solomon was especially specific in his request when God asked him what should he be given. Solomon answered “a discerning heart…” With that knowledge, I have to logically assume Solomon was well equipped to observe and report the many motivations for what we humans do, he could reasonably deduce human behaviors and actions. After the comma, he uses the word then. This is a cause and effect statement, a formula. Pride consequently leads to disgrace: the perpetual remorse of conscience. What goes up, must come down. Proverbs is laden with this type of structured advice for Godly life. And, as it turns out, Solomon had quite a bit to say about the dangers of pride, reference verses 18:12 and 16:18.
Still a Student
Look at the last section of our anchor verse but with the humble is wisdom. This is the understood contrast and within it lies the heart of addressing pride. We have the negative consequence to partially reinforce against pride, but we need the positive reward to move from discipline to growth. In other words, we chose to open ourselves to instruction. While pride makes people unteachable, humility makes us a willing student.
Words like humble and humility sound repulsive and leave a bad taste in our mouth when we say them, don’t they? It is because it goes directly against our self-based nature and culture. You don’t have to teach a child how to be selfish. However, as we get older, we learn to disguise this nasty little characteristic. Before too long, it takes a conscious act of the will to show humility. That is if we can resist the urge to tell everyone about our benevolent actions. But once we come to Christ, we acknowledge that we can’t do it and it isn’t all about us.
Unfortunately, we will always fight against being self-based creatures. The proclivity in our spiritual walks is to exhibit humility in the early stages, but to give way to pride as we grow further away from our moment of salvation. This usually occurs unintentionally… more of a creeping effect. We stop looking at the log in our eye and start looking at speck in other people’s eyes. When we do this, we no longer focus on our growth, but comparison to others. We no longer need to learn anything… we know it all. And most importantly, humility is a necessary catalyst for good to not only flow into your life, but out from it.
Overcome – Bible Study for Addiction Recovery Application – Shifting
As always, Jesus gave us a walking model of humility and its value in His Word. We are all familiar with Him washing the disciples’ feet at the last supper found in John 13. He got up before dinner and put Himself in a position of humility and washed their feet. What is especially important for us and our topic, is that in His position of humility, He gave us an illustration of our need for Him. He had to put himself in that position to do what needed to be done, for each of us. “The servant is not above the master” means that when we only think of ourselves, we become our own master. We must choose to put ourselves in the position of serving others, not ourselves, especially with the gifts and talents we find reasons to be prideful with. The best way to jump-start this process is to simply ask the next two questions:
Why have you been given these gifts? I am certain that He did not bless us with talents for us to turn our backs on Him and generate self-confidence. More often than not gifts become idols and instruments for worshipping ourselves, not at all what their intended use was when they were given. Gifts and talents are meant to glorify God, the one who gave them. They are intended to benefit others and be a reflection of the giver.
How are you using them? The fact that we have been given something does not imply that it is being used, let alone being used properly. I can attest to this fact just by looking at the kids in our house. We buy them toys and they use them as hammers. We give them tools and they become guns. Has He blessed you with artistic skill, a beautiful voice, athletic prowess, mechanical mind, the ability to wordsmith, a wonderful family? We have to be intentional with how we are using these gifts. If they terminate on themselves and do not glorify God, inspire or benefit others or make some sort of contribution, they are failing at their intended purpose.
The “Overcome” Bible Study for Addiction Recovery is part of the discipleship program at First Contact Ministries in Hendersonville, NC.
We always look forward to meeting new people at our Tuesday night support group meetings at 6:30 pm, located at Mud Creek Church in Hendersonville, NC. Our classes are designed to teach biblical principles for addiction recovery through discipleship. Our goal is to show the love of Jesus by supporting those who need it most.
A Phenomenal Mirror – Lesson 14 of the “Overcome” Christian Recovery Curriculum
Let’s jump right in and rip the band-aid off, shall we? Can you trust your heart to lead you correctly in every decision life may throw at you? How do you know your answer to this question is truthful and accurate? The simple answer to both questions: you can’t. The heart is responsible for many things that are wonderful; poetry, love songs, weddings. As well as many things that are horrible; jealousy, divorce and murder. The spiritual heart, as it turns out, is a phenomenal mirror that reflects the inside of the person of whom it dwells within. Follow along in this lesson of the “Overcome” Christian recovery curriculum to learn more.
We will use a fundamental engineering maxim and an analogy to illustrate this concept of form following function. Imagine a plain water bottle. It’s intended function, its purpose is to act as a container for liquids, specifically for water. That is its main function. While in a pinch, it may make a useful funnel when you are stuck on the side of the road and need to add oil to your car, or it can even hold pre-mixed pancake batter on a camping trip. But by and large it best serves its purpose as a container for water, regardless of its form.
So, with that basic premise, how is a water bottle and a 55-gallon drum any different in function? One major piece we took for granted, the ease of use. At times it is easy to focus on the forest and miss the trees. Some pieces of knowledge we take for granted and never really question why we have those beliefs and where did they come from? And even more poignant, what function does it serve? Our spiritual hearts are much the same. We know it is there and we know what it is supposed to do, but don’t really know what questions we need to ask for it to reach its full potential, as God designed it.
Our application tonight will be a reiteration of a previous application and for some it will be the single hardest thing they will ever have to give up in their entire life. So, trust me when I say this isn’t going to be easy. It is one thing to cover bitterness when life is good. It is a completely different subject when you have just been reminded of why you are bitter to begin with. It is a strange animal when you can’t see God because of the storm that has surrounded you and you have to rely on your faith that He is who He says He is.
A Relational Heart Disease
The Hebrew word for heart translates to the inner man, the mind, the will. It is the same idea for the Greek word that Jesus uses in Luke 12:34, which translates to the thoughts or feelings. So, if we take this metaphysical concept for the heart, it is the central part of us that is responsible for generating much of who we are, how we perceive life and what we do with life. The heart was created to generate compassion, mercy, care and love, not hate and strife. It was created to house the spirit. And what’s more, we are completely incapable of judging another person’s heart. Only God is able to discern what is within the heart. This truth makes the next set of observations all the more complicated.
Since bitterness is a relational heart disease, it just doesn’t manifest on its own. When our spiritual heart is diseased it is no longer capable of guiding us and we become more reactionary in our decisions. What may be a feeling of love today can just as easily become hate tomorrow. The heart is equipped to evolve and mutate based on what we feed it; projected expectations and fulfillment from other sinners, impatience to have our demands met and inconsistent emotional reactions. A diet based solely on these inputs results in feelings and thoughts such as:
Don’t these people see how much I have sacrificed and worked on this, how can they not care? I give up.
I’ll show them. They will miss me when I am gone.
How could you God? Why did you allow life to turn out this way?
Why did I trust you? You have hurt me for the last time. I will never forgive you.
Over my dead body.
Hurry up, why are you so slow?
You have to understand the why, what, how of the disease to properly treat it. In other words, what is the root cause regardless of the form it takes. We all want to be accepted, feel important, respected by someone else. And when those feelings aren’t met, we are hurt. We feel angry and rejected. Sometimes we get over those feelings quickly, but sometimes, dependent on the offense and the offender we may choose to wallow in our bitterness. Wallowing results in festering and further infection. That infection is commonly called a grudge. But in actuality it is a lack of forgiveness and showing of grace, especially when the offender is a loved one.
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?
Jeremiah 17:9
In attempting to understand that which by all accounts is non-understandable, I ask you to open your bibles and interact for a moment. Go to Jeremiah 17. Pick up at verse 5 and go through verse 8. In these verses, God is describing the folly of trusting in man. The futility of trying to find value and appreciation from other people. Since bitterness is relational and does not operate in a vacuum, we must not act surprised when other people fail at validating us. God’s design was not built that way. We are trying to make it function in a means that was never intended.
Likewise, in our anchor verse, God also describes the folly of trusting and following one’s own heart. As Proverbs 14:10 says, “The heart knows its own bitterness…” Why? Because it keeps a record of all the wrongs that have been done. It keeps a tally and corresponding payment it expects. And until that payment has been made, it accrues interest, making it a debt that can never be paid.
However, in verses 7 and 8, God describes what it is like to trust in Him, to joy. Joy is not happiness. Happiness is based on circumstances and situations. Joy is not based on your bank account or how much your spouse approves of you. Joy is a peace, a contentment, an ease of the soul. It is always in development and isn’t dependent on the world to sustain it. It is a confidence in God being who He says He is, in control and not subject to changing His mind like we are. Joy is found in Jesus and it is a peace that guards your heart:
These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.
John 15:11
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:7
“Overcome” Christian Recovery Curriculum Application – The example has been given
There are many moments in recovery and your walk with God that make absolutely no sense in the temporal realm of the day to day steps. As we progress down that road, the truth never changes, but our understanding should expand and evolve as we are stretched through faith, obedience, experience and introspection; vital components needed to take our next step in this lesson. Begin with the following question:
What has robbed you of your joy?
During this time of introspection, pay close attention to your heart as offenses are brought up. This is a good first step at learning how to discern your heart. Do you find yourself justifying feelings or emotional reactions to past hurts? Do you find yourself speeding past certain memories of events? Do you find yourself eager to do what you can to repair the relationship? The answers to the questions are a good reflection of the temperature of your heart.
What we are attempting to do, on a much smaller scale is to model the same forgiveness Jesus showed to us on the cross. He was willing to die to cover our wrongs. He was willing to die to reconcile us to an eternity with Him in heaven. He was willing to lay aside whatever debt and pay it on our behalf, all because the relationship was that important to Him. He chose to forgive. We must also choose to forgive.
The “Overcome” Christian recovery curriculum is part of the discipleship program at First Contact Ministries in Hendersonville, NC.
We always look forward to meeting new people at our Tuesday night support group meetings at 6:30 pm, located at Mud Creek Church in Hendersonville, NC. Our classes are designed to teach biblical principles for addiction recovery through discipleship. Our goal is to show the love of Jesus by supporting those who need it most.